我爱他！可是我又不想成为第三者！怎么办？

tb45403

大家好，请给我一些建议，我的心好痛，我忍不住想哭😭😭。

我有一个中国男朋友，我们交往了7个月，他非常善良体贴

上个月我才知道他在中国有个老婆，他说他瞒着我，因为他怕我离开他等等。上个月他因为工作原因不得不回国。我什么也做不了，只能在他面前哭。我不想成为小三

他在中国的时候，每小时都会跟我更新消息。在他回家之前，他的妻子和儿子总是睡在一起，尽管我妈妈病得很重，我还是试着理解他。

回去后,他喝酒了，当他回到家时,他洗了澡,刷了牙,因为我们要视频通话,我只是在静音。

然后，在他准备睡觉的时候，他决定趁着妻子和儿子睡觉的时候打开我们的视频监控，因为当时只有他们两个人在床上，因为他们的儿子在家和他们一起睡。他没喝醉，但他知道自己在做什么。直到我一晚上都没看视频，就录了下来。

我早上问他，他回答说他只是在表现，但我还没有查看我的记录。
然后有一天我又问他发生了什么事，我让他承认，因为那只是个玩笑。

然后他说他妻子刚刚拥抱了他。所以他就是这样撒谎的，对吧？所以我决定查看记录。

我听到一段接吻的声音，然后混乱，痛苦到不能忍受，我病了，瘦了好几天，不想吃东西。我问过他，他说可以离开我，我接受因为我只是爱错了人，但是他不愿意给我太多的承诺...

然后他又跟我道歉，说他什么都不记得了等等，甚至还怪上帝。
我太痛苦了，真想摆脱这种处境……。深爱一个人真的很难受。

我不知道该怎么办

ZYMB

I want to share some advice with you that I hope will help you during this difficult time: **Move on.**

I know it might be hard at first because you still have feelings for him, but remember that healing takes time. Dont rush yourself; you're still young, and there are so many experiences ahead of you.

When we fall in love quickly, it can be intense, but its important to focus on your well-being and future. This reminds me of my own experience back in 2011 when I met a Chinese guy at Republiq. I fell deeply in love, and we had a child together, but he left. It was incredibly difficult for me, especially as a new parent. However, I realized that I needed to prioritize my emotional health and the well-being of my son.

Now, I still keep in touch with him to update him about our child, but its different. Ive chosen not to seek financial support from him because thats just not what I want for myself or my son right now. My priority is raising my child, and I've found strength in being independent.

Right now, I dont feel the need for a boyfriend or marriage. I believe that God has given me the strength to take care of myself and my son, and thats enough for me.

Take your time to heal and focus on what truly matters in your life. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and engage in activities that bring you joy. You will come out of this stronger than before.

Wishing you peace and strength,

马东锡

那你就等他离婚

ZYMB

我觉得很难，因为他们一家人住在一起。我不想因为他们有了孩子就拆散他们的家庭。你知道，我觉得你还年轻，而且他不是世界上唯一的男人。你会找到一个比他更好的人，我知道你会记住我的建议。

ZYMB

爱你的父母，因为他们在你小时候照顾你。是时候回报他们了，所以要做好事……等你老了，有了孩子，你就会像我一样思考。

ZYMB

老不代表老，我是说成熟，不是老。抱歉。

龙脉

你想的太多了，得不到就毁掉

夜店

没办法两全其美

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